“The Beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides”
This is my daughter, Norah. She’s three years old. She’s fierce. She’s bold. She’s determined. She’s curious. Lately her curiosity has been all about beauty. From across the room, I’ll often hear her say, “I look beautiful Mama!” Yes, you do dear, but for so many reasons beyond what you see in the mirror. I just want to embrace her and squeeze her and say you are the most beautiful person I know! You are divine! Instead, I imperfectly say to her “you are beautiful on the inside Norah, no matter what you wear or what you look like.” She then replies “I have a rainbow heart, Mama.” Yes! Yes, you do dear!
How does a mother begin to teach her daughter what true beauty means? How do parents let their children dream and love princesses and fairytales while inspiring them to see beauty beyond a person’s exterior. How do we begin to change the narrative of what it means to be beautiful in our society?
In an effort to change the narrative, we’ve introduced a new type of narrative by reading a page or two from the book Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls, which is a compilation of short stories of real, courageous, empowering, Be(YOU)tiful women. Norah asks questions. She’s curious, but still prefers the princess narratives.
We’re making progress toward a better understanding of what beauty means.
Part of changing the narrative also means empowering our children with tools and resources they need to care for and love their bodies naturally. Our journey in our home is to teach our children about natural solutions so they can trust themselves to solve problems they currently face or will face.
You see, essential oils don’t just provide plant-based health benefits. They ignite emotional responses and provoke memory. Can you remember what your Grandma’s perfume smelled like? Or, do you know why it “feels” like home when cookies are baking in the oven? Our olfactory system holds and provokes memories. So, what would it look like if we used and smelled essential oils when we delivered positive affirmations to our children? What if we grounded our values in essential oils? Here is a solution for affirming what it means to be a “New Girl,” a girl that understands beauty as a deeply rooted, intertwined, coming together of difference, curiosity, confidence, adventure, love, and nature.
The New Girls – Rose, Jasmine, and Neroli
Rose is known for it’s sweet floral fragrance that is emotionally uplifting. Use Rose Touch on your heart and pulse points to stimulate feelings of happiness, contentment, and love. Rose also helps to promote healthy brain activity in children and support immune functions.
Affirmation for Adults: My heart is always open and I radiate love.
Affirmation for Children: You are loved completely and always.
Jasmine is prized for it’s delicate white flowers, which emit a highly fragrant aroma. It’s considered one of the most precious oils in the world because the extracting process is extremely labor-intensive. Emotionally, Jasmine promotes feelings of joy, peace, and self-confidence. Apply to the wrist or neck to uplift you and promote feelings of confidence.
Affirmation for adults: I am self-reliant, creative and persistent in whatever I do.
Affirmation for Children: You are bold, courageous, strong.
Much like Jasmine, Neroli is a delicate white blossom. It comes from the well-known and beloved Bitter Orange tree, where we also get Petitgrain. According to research, Neroli instills relaxation,uplifts mood, reduces feelings of anxiousness, and promotes overall well-being. Applied topically, Neroli can also be used to soothe skin and reduce the appearance of blemishes. What’s most important about Neroli is that is helps to promote emotional stability which allows you to lead yourself and influence others in positive ways.
Affirmation for adults: I am able to take the lead.
Affirmation for Children: You are a natural leader.
When doTERRA released this new set of precious touch oils, Jasmine, Rose, and Neroli, my brain went immediately to thinking about how much Norah will benefit from these oils, and how we could use these oils to support her in her lifelong journey into understanding what it means to be a woman in our society. I hope that the women in your life can experience what it means to be empowered, confident, with deeply rooted beauty inside and out.